Reset Your Reality

The era we live in right now is an inflection point. It’s time to reflect on the way we live, work, eat, and think.

If we all are simultaneously projecting into the future a collective, positive well-being. A heart centered idea of what we want the world to be. If we are all manifesting a new society, where caring and the environment have value. Where love, equality and kindness are the focus. Where human creativity and expression is a feature, not a bug. Then we will be able to flip the upside-down world back right-side up. 

It is as simple as a collective change in our ways of thinking. Freeing up time from our busy schedules for the benefit of ourselves and our fellow humans. Focusing less on earning money and the ego, and more on earning positive merit. Putting health first and paying positivity forward.

Everything Is Energy And Nothing Is Matter

The quantum model of physics states that the physical world is 99.99999% energy and .00001% matter, meaning atoms are mostly empty space and fields of energy. Even in a vacuum you cannot remove energy. 

To quote Ali Sundermier, Science Communications Officer at the US Department of Energy.  “Since the meat of your atoms is nestled away in nuclei, when you ‘touch’ someone (or something), you aren’t actually feeling their atoms. What you are feeling is the electromagnetic force of your electrons pushing away their electrons. On a very, very technical level, you’re not actually sitting on that chair. You’re hovering ever so slightly above it. So to conclude: Your very important human body is really, kind of, in a way, just a misleading collection of empty spaces on an empty planet in an empty Universe.” 

The physical world only seems real to us because of electromagnetic forces and wave functions. Energy is an opportunity waiting to happen. Accepting this will change your life.

Countless Hours of Pointless Toil

The average American spends approximately 70% of their days each week, fulfilling tasks for others, to earn money, just to exist. To have shelter, food, and clothes. The things we take so seriously, like our jobs, possessions, and daily tasks. For the most part, they are just utterly pointless expenditures of energy. “Countless hours of pointless toil,” an artist I once knew liked to say. Do we exist solely to expend energy and fulfill tasks? We spend so much time doing meaningless work and consuming.

Our Energetic Output Matters Most

Since, it is the energetic world that matters most. What we do energetically has the most impact and meaning. So I started to think of everything in energetic terms. I began asking myself. What is it that I am doing each day that creates positive energetic force? Because there is plenty of negative annoyance we each have to put up with every day. It is easy to complain, and I seemed to like to complain a lot. Being from in New Jersey and all.

So just going about tasks. I began to be conscious in terms of, what is the energy I am sharing. And, whether you realize it or not, negative energy takes a toll on us and others. And it’s contagious. For every one negative interaction we have. Energetically it takes about five positive ones to counteract that single negative interaction, according to research done by John Gottman and Robert Levenson.

There Is a Chemical Reason Negativity Sticks With Us

Fear, rejection and criticism cause the release of cortisol in our brain which can shut down our ability to reason and think critically. In a sense this reverts us back to our animal modality, causing us to either “freeze or appease.”

We appease, to avoid negative encounters, ones which we cannot be sure if they will bring about conflict. “The self is more motivated to avoid bad self definitions than to pursue good ones. Bad impressions and bad stereotypes are quicker to form and more resistant to disconfirmation than good ones.” – Roy F. Baumeister, Ellen Bratslavsky, Catrin Finkenauer and Kathleen D. Vohs – Review of General Psychology, Bad is Stronger Than Good.

“A single traumatic experience can have long term effects on the person’s health, wellbeing, attitudes, self esteem, anxiety, and behavior; many such effects have been documented.” This means that you are directly responsible for the times you have created negative experiences for other people.

Good Feeling Chemicals Metabolize Faster Than Bad Ones

Positive interactions also stimulate chemical production in the brain. When you get a compliment, for example, the interaction produces oxytocin which is a feel good hormone. However, oxytocin metabolizes quicker than cortisol. This is why bad interactions outweigh good ones and why we tend to have a stronger memory of, or dwell on negative interactions more than positive ones. This is what psychologists refer to as “negative bias”.

When you are going about your day, take into consideration that negativity is contagious and much easier to keep and share. Making it easy to complain, be rude, or be unappreciative and detached. To act entitled. 

In order to shift my energy, I personally make a point to do my best to share positivity in my interactions throughout the day. And it works to change my mood. Especially, if I am feeling down or unhappy. I do this regardless of whether negativity is being received.

Peace of Mind Is Love And Compassion

The Dalai Lama says, “The real source of peace of mind is love and compassion; not the love we feel for those who are close to us, but an unlimited sense of altruism, a love that can be extended to all beings, including your enemy, which all human beings are capable of.” Imagine if all day you only have negative interactions. You probably don’t need to imagine, we all have these kinds of days and know how it feels. So then we should also recognize these negative feelings linger, sometimes for days. 

Don’t waste your energy taking out your problems on the cashier who is already most likely having a bad day of their own. Or that driver who just cut you off. Remember that every single human has their own stress and problems to deal with. When committing small acts of kindness you are stimulating joy inside yourself. Not only that, you are inspiring others to do the same. Lead by example.

In a positive feedback loop we all try to minimize our negative impact and maximize our positive impact on other people’s lives as much as possible. Building up, rather than tearing down. Personally, I feel bad when I negatively impact someone’s life. And this can create a negative feedback loop. Which, I believe, in turn creates bad karma. Or in other words, a negative feedback loop.

So in your day to day life, smile at people and do good unexpected things without reason for reward. You will find that by doing good, you will feel good. And it’s contagious.