As human beings, we tend to get control of everything that happens around us. Keeping things under control helps us become confident and proactive in any situation. Being able to control the situation is definitely good. However, over control of every aspect in life would be of no use and even harmful to your well-being and your relationships. You would be exhausted from trying to manage the unnecessary. Sometimes, it’s better to go with the flow and let go of things we couldn’t control. Check out this article to have some tips on how to let go and free your mind.
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Determine What You are Trying to Get Control and Why You Want to Control It
Spend time for your mind to really listen to what it wants. Take a look into your own inside world, list out the things that you are struggling to handle and put under control. If you are a type of person who always strive to control everything, that is such a difficult case. But don’t worry. Every issue can be addressed as long as you really want to do it.
Whenever you want to solve any problem, first things first, you need to find the root of it. Why do you want to control everything? Is that your inborn characteristic? Or is that actually built from your fear? At the root of the problem, I guess the answer is the latter. Control might give you the sense of safety and peace of mind. When you are not in control, on the other hand, you feel scared, frustrated and insecure. That is when you are scared of failure, you are afraid of the consequenses when things are different from what you expect. Incorporating mindfulness practices into your daily routine can help you become more aware of your tendency to control and allow you to let go more easily.
Make the Decision to Let Go
It’s exhausting trying to be in control all the time, isn’t it? Now that you realize how much needless effort you are putting into controlling the world surrounding you, it’s time for you to give up this habit. When you find yourself overthinking and trying to control every aspect of a situation, meditation for overthinking can be a powerful tool to calm your mind and reduce anxiety. If you really want to make some changes to your life, then you need to take it serious. Be strict with yourself whenever you go back to your old ways. It’s helpful to write down your statement or your promise, print it, and post it wherever it is in sight so you can always be reminded about it.
Stop Looking Around and Comparing
Besides the fear of failure, control also comes from the desire to be as good as others. If you always look at other people with your envious eyes, you tend to look back to your own life and get disappointed that you don’t have the same things that they have. Then you try hard all the time just to be the same as someone else, forgetting whether it is really what you want. We all have our own life. So you should want what you really want, not what others have. Stop comparing yourself to others. Focus on your own life. Set your own goals and compare you today to yourself from the old days. You are successful when you can become a better version of yourself. Whenever you find evious with other people, ask yourself if that is the value you want to create for your own life. Remember, the journey of letting go is a form of self improvement, focusing on personal growth rather than controlling external factors.
Trust that It will be Ok
Letting go doesn’t mean giving up the desire. It’s about giving up the struggle. Sometimes, trust has the power to open up new opportunities. Learning effective stress management techniques can help you feel more comfortable with uncertainty and reduce the urge to control everything. Just release of what is holding you back and keep a positive thought in your mind that everything is gonna be fine in the end.
